Faithful to Grieve: A Pastoral Couple’s Sorrows

I readily admit – I would not choose ANY times of grief that my husband and I have experienced over the past 18 years of ministry. I also can admit that my ‘grief vision’ is flawed and retrospective. God foresees and oversees each moment of grief in a way that my heart is learning to welcome. 

The Merriam Webster Dictionary defines grief as a “deep sadness especially for the loss of someone or something loved.” And showing love is what pastors and wives do, right? Good grief! (more on that later) A pastoral couple’s calling to love the sheep opens a great capacity to be hurt by the sheep, leading to grief which opens a great capacity to be healed by the Shepherd. 

Grief has some sad synonyms: sorrow, anguish, woe, regret, distress of mind. Basically, everything we want to avoid. Yet to impede the grieving process only prolongs the heartache. So how should we grieve?   

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About Denna Busenitz

Denna and her husband, Kurt, have five children (3 teens and 2 tweens) and have been church planters with RHMA in the Sandhills Region of Nebraska nearly 20 years. Kurt pastors Sandhills Church of Hope- ‘one church with two locations’ in small-town and rural NE. Denna has a music degree from Moody Bible Institute and helps coordinate music at church. Her weeks are filled with Moms in Prayer groups, kids club/youth ministries and organizing the family calendar. She serves on her local grocery store board and substitutes at school.

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